I had a conversation with a friend today about how far she has come in just under 2 years and it got me thinking. Who am, I? Well…I am Lauren. I am a Simple small town country girl who grew up in a tiny little farmer/water side town in Maryland, which we call the county or CC.
I was a cheerleader, the track & field girl, gymnast, and girl who had friends at several different schools. I kinda just meshed in with whoever.
I Graduated form high school and chose to stay close to home because I love my family and didn’t want to go to far. I came home almost every weekend my first year of school.
I was generally that girl who, when I set my mind to something I just did it. I worked for it and I accomplished it.
I got a scholarship to college for cheerleading. We won the National Championship.
I became a Ravens Cheerleader. Then a Redskins Cheerleader.
I was terrible with money though. I was that college girl who made bad choices with credit cards and racked up $10,000 in debt. I followed terrible advice from a lawyer and filed for bankruptcy.
I took a job selling copiers for Cannon because someone told me that it was the back door to pharmaceutical sales which is what I thought I wanted to do.
I applied for the masters program at University of Maryland for Social Work and got in. I took a Job as a Neurotherapist in a Neurology office and loved what I did.
I toured the world FOR FREE and made it to 38+ Countries and experienced unbelievable things.
I met my husband who was a professional baseball player, dated for 2.5 years got married, Quit my job, and learning to be a “baseball wife”. I put every penny of saving I had into our home. Becoming dependent on someone else for everything and doing nothing was pretty scary.
I moved out of my house and got my real estate license so I could “do something”.
We built our big beautiful home in NJ and I traveled with my husband so we could enjoy married life.
I lead a pretty dreamy life.
Val was released from his MLB team after years of trying to recover from a shoulder injury and we got pregnant with our first child.
A few months later he moved off to play on the west coast and I stayed home, took a recruiting job that I could do from home because real estate just wasn’t working out. I hated it.
I visited Val every few weeks and in December that year we had Quin.
Val bounced from Independent ball to MiLB teams each year trying to bring his dream of making it BACK to the big leagues come alive. I had become a full time “baseball wife” and a mom to this amazing little man but we were struggling.
The Stock market dropped, I had student loans and a car payment to payoff. We started pulling from saving to save our home as the bills were WAY more than what we made. Val started working an insurance job, and he HATED IT. Val considered “Hanging up his cleats” but We Made the decision together for Val to continue to GO for his dreams.
We sold my car and bought one that didn’t have a payment, Sold our house, lived with host familes, and rented homes, moving 3-5 times a year and driving from one coast to the other and everywhere in between.
I worked odd jobs in a day care, selling crafts, jewelry, cleaning houses, selling clothes online. What ever I could to “Do Something”. Non of it really stuck. I didn’t Love it but I had this desire to DO MORE. I felt “LOST”.
Late one night I saw Insanity on TV. Val said I would never be able to do it. Well I wanted to prove him wrong. So I bought it, and completed it, and competed in a fitness competition and won the bikini portion that we call grace and physique. I fell in love with it. I told everyone about it. People bought it. (I wasn’t a coach).
I learned about nutrition and started helping people compete and get in shape for pennies at local parks and gyms or their homes. I met one of my very best friends through that.
We had trouble getting pregnant the second time because of what I had done to my body with competing. 5 months of trying and we miscarried after getting pregnant. The next month we got pregnant with our daughter, Audrey. Val decided it was his last year playing. We said goodbye to baseball life and were SCARED TO DEATH as to what we were going to do next. I took a substitute teaching job and Val worked multiple jobs staying out late and even leaving from Tuesday till Saturday to sell insurance in NJ while I stayed with the Kids in Maryland. We had our daughter. I had postpartum depression, our house caught fire and we were renting WITHOUT renters insurance. We had no money, a broken down car, no home, and not much but our faith, each other, and a family who loved and supported us.
I prayed for a sign to dig us out of this hole we were in. I was tired of feeling stuck. tired of wondering how we were going to pay for groceries and worried about what brand I had to buy at the store because they were cheaper even though they were so terrible for us. I wanted to STOP asking our family for money in exchange for cleaning houses and doing odd jobs. For goodness sakes..WE were in our 30’s and I wanted to just be PROUD of ME and where we were. I was a stay at home mom who had bankruptcy on her shoulders, couldn’t get a credit card, or a loan, or a cell phone in my name without “HELP”, if at all. I wanted to feel secure and independent again. I wanted to know that I could take care of my family if I had too. I just had this screaming feeling in my gut that there had to be something, something that I loved that I could do from home to take care of my family and help us get through this.
God delivered that sign to my inbox that day a few hours later. I took the opportunity and that gut feeling and I ran with it. I used birthday money and gift cards and borrowed $10 to get started. I was told I was being scammed, I was judged. I was mocked. Made fun of behind my back for it being “just another thing she’s selling”.
I heard the word NO a thousand times, and found out who my real friends were. I knew I was in the right place at the right time and that God had placed this in my life at exactly the right time. I made a commitment to myself and to my family to MAKE IT HAPPEN!
As I grew to learn how to love ME and my life, again, I learned how to always find the silver lining. I met so many other women who had stories like mine and a DESIRE to do more for themselves and to CREATE this identity for themselves again outside of their role as mom. MOM was great. It was what we all wished for. To be stay at home mom’s. But we had a FIRE and and PASSION to do more.
I struggled with self doubt, and compared myself to other people. I felt I didn’t have much to offer anyone. I felt like I was just _____. But I worked on conquering those feelings. I worked on BELIEVING IN ME! I am still working on that. I do it everyday. I am my own worst critic.
Somehow This crazy opportunity that came my way has become a career that I love that has helped my family not only survive but THRIVE and accomplish amazing things. We now live that comfy dreamy life that is more than what we had ever hoped for. Our marriage is stronger, our faith is stronger, and we are stronger and more empowered in every way. We know that all of those things, feelings, failures…They were just all part of the preparations that God was doing as he laid this path for us brick by brick to even bigger and better things. Things that we haven’t even dreamed yet. But we believe they are possible and we have faith that when you have a passion and a fire inside of you that you need to follow it through.
I would do do this amazing coaching job even if I wasn’t getting paid for it because it is my true calling to empower other women’s passion and purpose in their lives so that they can Live out the Dreams that THEY don’t know they have yet. Today I heard girls talking about paying off debt, earning more in a week then they did in a month at their full time job, testimonies of happiness, weight loss, being saved, and proving to themselves and their doubters that they are worth it. I seriously just wanted to cry. I couldn’t find the words to describe how I felt about it all. Humbling, and overwhelming, and PURE JOY and excitement for what God is dong in their lives and in mine. It is a lot of work at times but it makes my heart so full so see other people THRIVING in the their lives and that is something that you just can’t put a price on.
I’m currently taking applications for people who would like to walk side by side with me, and learn the ropes on how I turned working out from home just for fun, into a full blown, 6 figure annual career.
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