“I may not be a perfect mother but I am exactly the mother my children need”
Repeat the above statement to yourself. I caught myself in a moment today while trying to take a picture and Audrey was all over me and in the picture. I was about to move her when I just smiled and I had to just stop and reflect. This was a moment to cherish and to love and it was caught beautifully on camera. Why be frustrated. Find joy in the moment. Enjoy HER and all her cuteness.
So it got me thinking. There are so many days where I wonder if I am doing right by my kids. Am I teaching them the right things? Am I spending enough time with them in the right areas of their life, feeding them well, am I being a “good enough” mom. It’s overwhelming some times when I really think about all that being a parent entails.
Then when I try to be what society thinks is a good enough mom the other questions start coming and the guilt of not focusing enough on my job, friends, family, the household, or other things? Will I fail? Will my kids love me if I try to balance it all? What will other people think? How do you balance it all and, Well…what is a “good enough” mom? Truth is…who cares? I just want to live my life in the best way I know how with my top priorities being cared for.
If I do nothing today besides hug my children then I have done enough. My family is my Number ONE priority.
Today I will see the best in my child and the best in myself. The decisions made by other moms or other people do not need to dictate mine. And…Not loving every moment of motherhood doesn’t mean I don’t love being a mom.
We all have those days where we just want to waive the white flag and surrender or tag in your husband as soon as he walks in the door so you can escape to a quiet place or out of the house and just breathe…or just BE! Target is always a good escape or the spa but we can’t always go to the spa even though we wish we could. Audrey has been attached to me since she woke up and I find myself saying…”mommy just needs to…”
Well, “the just needs to” can wait. My kids will only be little and want my undivided attention for so long. Before I know it they will be slamming doors in my face and asking for their privacy. They will sit on the opposite side of the room and not want to be right in my lap. They won’t always be asking me to play.
When my kids ask me to play, I am going to stop what I am doing and say, “yes, I will”. The rest can wait. That is after all why I have made the career choice I did. To be present and to be there for my kids.
Being a good mom takes courage, and today I’m feeling brave. I am Stepping away from the daunting to do list, and having fun being the best parent that I know how to be.
Today I will be an intentional parent.
Sorry for the rant but it was just something that fell on my heart for ME and I thought I would share. Share if you agree