“You have to see value in yourself, before you see value in adding to yourself.” Changing the way you TALK about yourself, it is the best way to change how you VIEW yourself.
I was thinking about my conversation last night with Tiffani and I was opening up to her about how much I tore myself down last year and at times…still do. I got so hung up in the negative self chatter. “I must not be a good mom”, “I am not pretty”, “I don’t fit in”, I can’t do” XYX. I was always comparing myself to other people saying things like I don’t do that with my kids. she is a better mom. I would see people post things about cute kids meals or parties or things that other moms did with their kids and I would just pick at myself as a parent.
In business I would watch other people and their success and I would tear myself apart wondering why I wasn’t able to do the same thing or see the same success. I found myself trying to recreate what they were doing and honestly..It just wasn’t me.
I found myself picking apart every aspect of my life and I got lost in not knowing OR THINKING that I didn’t know who I really was because I let the negative chatter step in and take control. It held me back from truly being successful and enjoying the moments that God meant to be special moments in my life. I can’t get that time back.
Point is that NONE of us are perfect. NOT ONE PERSON that you see here in social media or at your kids school or at work has it all together. If they say they do then they are LYING. There is certainly one area of their life that they struggle with in some way shape or form. They are no better than you and no worse than you either. What you see outwardly and what they see behind the public eye are different. What you see as perfect…that person may be picking themselves apart for at home. People show what they want you to see. They put out their perceived image of perfection. We all do it in one way or another. I am sure there is something that you have said… “well that’s Facebook worthy” OR “Oh, that CAN NOT go on Facebook” or whatever social media outlet you use.
Talking positively to yourself will help you to add value to yourself and to stop the negative chatter. Every time you hear those negative thought pop into your mind, arm yourself with positive affirmations or scripture that will shut up the enemy in your mind.
Today, I want you to write down the negative self chatter when it pops in your head. Then go and write a positive affirmation on a sticky note and place it somewhere that you will see it. Then SAY IT OUT LOUD! Say it over and over and eventually you will start to believe it.
I did it this morning for me as I sat in the mirror and picked apart my face and all the things I disliked about it. So Here is my sticky note on my mirror to remind me that I am beautiful. Lets see yours!!